Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Falling in Love - With Myself



Lest you think I'm so vain and start singing Carly Simon's timeless breakup lyrics at me (tangent: timeless? really, Heidi? that song is as old as you), allow me to explain the name of my latest blog.

Today I felt sucky about myself. I mean, really girl-you-don’t-got-your-sh*t-together sucky. I woke up feeling okay. Then I drove to work and in the process a flood of emotions piled up on me. I started to realize just how stupid I’ve been acting lately: not taking care of basic necessities like sleeping and paying bills, not following through with people I care about, avoiding important tasks because I don’t want to deal with the emotions of them, eating a bag of chocolate for breakfast. Yup. Stupid. That went downhill fast and before I knew it I was the poster child for doncha-wish-you-bought-our-waterproof-mascara? I hate crying at the office because my desk is a million miles from the ladies room and everybody & their mother walk past me on their way into the building in the morning. Somehow I managed to exit early, claiming emotional distress (and I probably had that crazed look in my eye that said, “Don’t mess with this girl. Not today.”)

At the advice of a few friends and with a little nudge of the Holy Spirit in my heart, I decided to spend the afternoon “being still” to see what God might have to teach me. Convenient, since my new sofa was delivered today. :P 


As I plopped down on the new sofa to test its kick-back-and-read capabilities, I felt prompted to pull out some old journals. My mind settled in on a period of my past when I was (at least in my memory) very stable, very focused, and very in tune with my God. So I dove into 1993, the realm of the 20-year-old Heidi.

And here’s what I discovered: I was the exact same girl, 20 years ago.

As I pored over pages of love, anger, angst, excitement, and mediocrity, I was overwhelmed with the thought that, “This could have been written today!” I was amazed at the insight and advice I offered myself; I was shocked at the deliberate tossing aside of common sense in favor of a good time. And I was intrigued with the fact that every emotion, frustration, worry, and desire in my heart today was already there 20 years ago.

On July 11, 1993, a particularly wise Heidi wrote:

“It feels good to stand on my own for a while. Today I felt good about being me and about being on my own. I realize that I am strong enough to stand alone and, with the help of God and Jesus, I can and will make it through all things. I might even thrive through them! I am not sure exactly where I am going, but my life is in God’s hands (and I know that’s a good place to be). I really like who I am!”
How did that Heidi know she would need herself and her own advice 20 years later? I’m kinda falling in love with myself.